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Orientation 7: Respect

Author: Norische

Filed in: training



"Respect as defined by Webster's Dictionary may be used as a verb or noun, and comes from two Latin combinations: re-, back + specere, look at). Our modern meanings include: 1. to feel or show honor or esteem for. 2. to show consideration for. 3. to concern; relate to."

Respect is something that is slowly earned through one's actions and words. In an owner/slave relationship respect is mandatory. The slave must respect the owner, not only as an individual but also as an owner in general. The slave must learn to respect the owner's privacy, even if the slave is permitted none of his or her own. The slave must learn to respect the decisions of the owner, even if the slave has questions about the decision itself. The slave must respect the owner's property (which the slave is now part of) and the owner's home.

Most importantly the slave must respect him or herself. With respect comes honor, pride, and self esteem. Without these things a slave will allow him or herself to be mistreated, neglected even abused. In my honest opinion a good slave is a terrible thing to waste.

With respect comes trust, and a relationship within this lifestyle that has neither respect or trust is no relationship at all. If a slave does not trust his or her owner then they are staying with said owner out of fear, not loyalty, duty or honor. A relationship based on fear and not respect or trust is one in which all parties will end up being hurt in the end.

There is a certain amount of respect that the title of "Owner" gives an individual. With that title one is believed to have the knowledge and experience befitting the designation. However, sometimes that is not always the case; sometimes the title is as arbitrary as an honorary doctorates degree. A title without the knowledge, experience and skill behind it is no more than a meaningless word. Unfortunately, the title itself does indeed deserve respect, even if the bearer of such a title is unworthy. Hence a slave should always show respect to an owner, until that specific individual has done or said something to lose that respect.

Once respect for an individual is lost it is very difficult to regain, it takes time and a great deal of effort to over shadow the past and hence allow an individual to regain the trust and eventually the respect that once was held. Honesty, honor, integrity, time and hard work are the only ways to repair the damage of a moment of ignorance, carelessness or dishonesty.

Norische

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