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The Power Of Submission

Author: rarejewel

Filed in: submission



To understand the power of submission, one must first understand what being a submissive means, where it comes from and how it is expressed.

True submission is something that comes from deep within a person and is an essential part of their nature. It is something expressed from the soul and as such, it goes much deeper than the mere physical/sexual act of offering ones-self to a Master for pleasure. A person can behave in a submissive manner but this is not the same as being "a submissive."

To offer oneself completely and utterly to another, to surrender all choices and "power" requires and exceptional inner strength. High self esteem and a knowledge that in order to relinquish power to another as well as understanding that one must possess that inner power is essential.

Embracing and expressing my submissive nature has given me the most powerful opportunities to find the deepest levels of trust, power and the intimacy that can only arise from the bond of a Master and sub. It is the ultimate _expression of balance, the archetypal opposition of yin (the receptive principle) and yang (the active principle). Both sides being perfectly equal, yet forming a perfect whole. Mutually inter-dependent upon the other.

As a submissive, my goals are to come before Master as an empty chalice to be filled ... or a black canvas to be painted ... formless clay waiting to be molded. Thru this exchange, i know that i will become more than i was before ... the Master takes the raw material, or the blank canvas or the raw gemstone and brings out the inner lustre. In this experience, what many misinterpret is that they assume the Master imposes His will upon the sub and she becomes whatever He wants her to be. i would disagree ... to me, the Master brings out the qualities of submssion in a more pronounced way. Rather then being told to "act" in a submissive way, it is the submissive's role to remove the veil until who she becomes is the perfect reflection of devoted service and in serving her Master, she finds an inner joy and balance that comes from knowing that with each veil removed, each boundary crossed, she becomes MORE of who and what she already is.

When i feel, hear and see my Master's pride in me, i know that i am elevated and adored above all women. i have truly given the gift of my soul to Him and in that exchange He becomes as bound to me as i am to Him. That is the beauty of submission to me. There is a dynamic that exists where the more my Master asks of me, the more i am able to give, and then the deeper our bound becomes. It grows exponentially. The perfect yin/yang of the Master being that active principle in the TAKING and the submissive being the receptive in the GIVING.

My submission is expressed in many ways: on a physical, mental, emotional and spiritual level. Without all of those levels, again, it becomes merely a physical act. There is a sacredness to submission as well for me. Like prayer or other acts of devotion, it is living my life with an intention and focus that always strives for the highest, purest _expression. Putting the relationship first ... always searching within for ways to please and offer more of myself than i think i can. It is this going beyond and pushing limits that becomes the most important reward of submission for me ... the place of empowerment and self knowledge and the resulting inner strength/transformation. It is also dancing with the inner shadowself ... the parts of me that are about fear and being taken on the journey by someone (the Master) who will be there to catch you so your never really falling.

The most special part of submission for me is the level of intimacy and soul connection with another. Each veil that is removed, each boundary crossed, each lash accepted and begged for, each time of being taken to the outermost regions of letting go of control ... all of this is the glue that binds the Master and sub completely to one another. To become completely naked and vulnerable on every level, then give more than i think i can and see the pride, love and devotion in my Master's eyes is the greatest gift imaginable.

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