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A Dominant's Creed

Author: Author Unknown

Filed in: dominance, inspirational



Above all else a Dom/me cherishes Their submissive, in the knowledge that the gift the submissive gives Them is the greatest gift of all.

A Dom/me is demanding and takes full advantage of the power given to Them, but knows how to share the pleasure that comes from that precious gift.

A Dom/me is in control of Themselves first and foremost, so that They may control others.

As a stern and demanding Dom/me, They can cause Their submissive to cry real tears.

As the consummate lover, They will then kiss the tears away, without stepping out of character.

In times of trouble, a Dom/me will leave the roles behind, to be a supportive friend and partner, never forgetting that this is still a loving relationship between two caring individuals.

A Dom/me is quick to understand the differences between fantasy and reality.

A Dom/me would never asks a submissive to put Them before their career, or family, just to satisfy Their own pleasure.

To win a submissive's mind, body, spirit, soul, and love, a Dom/me knows They must first win their trust.

A Dom/me will show Their submissive humour, kindness, and warmth.

A Dom/me must always show them that Their guidance and tutoring is knowledgeable and deserving of their attention, that this is a person they can learn from, and that they can trust Their direction.

A Dom/me is romantic enough to be protective and chivalrous. When called upon, They will fight for Their submissive's honour.

A Dom/me proves to their submissive that They are someone they can lean on, and depend on.

When it comes time to teach Their submissive their lessons of obedience, They are a strong and unyielding professor.

A Dom/me will accept no flaw. Nothing less than perfection from Their student.

Never does a Dom/me use discipline without a good reason. When They do punish Their submissive, it is always with a knowledgeable and careful hand.

A Dom/me is always open to communication and discussion; always ready to hear Their submissive's wants and needs.

A Dom/me is patient; taking time to learn Their submissive's limits, and knowing that as their trust of Them grows, so will they.

A Dom/me never has to demand ritual behavior from Their submissive. Their submissive responds to Them out of the want of pleasing Them. Compliance comes from the wanting to please, not the fear of punishment.

A Dom/me understands the fragile nature of mind and body and never violates the trust given to Them.

A Dom/me is secure enough to laugh at Themselves and the absurdities of life. Open minded enough to learn new things. Strong enough to grow.

A Dom/me's tools are mind, body, spirit, soul, and love.

A Dom/me understands that E/each partner gains most from pleasuring the O/other.

And B/both of T/them know that love and trust are the only bindings that truly hold.

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