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The 12 Days of Kinky Christmas by Unknown
Filed in: humor

On the 1st day of Christmas, my master gave to me... A Small Feather Pillow for my knees. On the 2nd day of Christmas, my master gave to me... 2 Nipple Clamps and a Small Feather Pillow for my knee[...]

Jingle Belles by Unknown
Filed in: humor

Dashing through the house In a corset and high heels Hands tied behind our backs How naughty we do feel! Belles in bondage tight Make our spirits bright What fun it is to tie and gag A naughty bitch [...]

Hey I'm Putting You In Bondage, Tonight(carol) by Unknown
Filed in: humor

Oh, you better not pout, You better not cry, You better not shout, I'm telling you why, I'm putting you in bondage, tonight. I'm getting out ropes, Checking them twice Because you have been Naughty b[...]

Top 20 Politically Correct Way To Call Someone A Pervert by Unknown
Filed in: humor

20. Morally Challenged 19. Sadomasochistically-engineered 18. Sensationally-accomplished 17. Kinkifically-resolved 16. Exhibitionismically-oriented 15. Missionary-incompatible 14. Dominantly-end[...]

Short Jokes by Various
Filed in: humor

Sue and Sally meet at their 30th class reunion, and they haven't seen each other since graduation. They begin to talk and bring each other up to date. The conversation covers their husbands, their chi[...]

You know you are kinky when ... by Unknown
Filed in: humor

... You hear about a Bridal Fashion Show to be held in your town, and you think, "Cool! I've always wanted to see what pony gear looks like ON someone!" ... Your entire Music collection con[...]

Irresponsible Masters by Mystik
Filed in: dominance, submission, definitions

The slave is equal in personality, human rights and dignity. There are those who feel that the slave gives up her rights once she becomes her Master’s property. Wrong! First, she has the righ[...]

Returning to Vanilla by luna[KM]
Filed in: general knowledge, vanilla

Could you please tell me of any sites that I may check into on the transition from a D/s relationship back into a vanilla relationship? I find myself with that dilemma now. And it is very difficult th[...]

Leathercare and Bootblacking by Sergeant Major
Filed in: leather, cleaning

Leather in all its various forms from garments to boots to accessories is the most obvious symbol of the lifestyle. Expensive to acquire, with proper maintenance and care it will outlast its owner&rsq[...]

Observation and Analysis of a Scene by Sergeant Major
Filed in: scene, observation, analysis

The observation and analysis of a scene is intended as an objective process where certain constants are looked for during the conduct of the scene. It is not intended to be an appraisal or evaluation [...]

BDSM Tech Support by Anonymous
Filed in: humor

L: Hi. I was trying to do the candle wax dripping thing, and it's not working. B: Have you lit the candle? L: I need to light it? B: Yes, if you want it to drip wax. L: How do I light it? B: With[...]

Twas the Night Before Christmas... Kinky by MangledTulip
Filed in: humor

'Twas the night before Christmas, when all through the domain, Not a subbie was stirring, (they were tied down with chain) The shackles were hung by the chimney with care, And the St. Andrews cross st[...]

The D/s Beatitudes by Author Unknown
Filed in: inspirational, d/s

Blessed are the Dominants,whose willingness to exercise responsibility for a submissive is the foundation of our Lifestyle. Blessed is the submissive, whose only true joy and desire is to serve. Ble[...]

Wannabe Infestation by Norische
Filed in: newbies, general knowledge

wan·na·be also wan·na·bee P Pronunciation Key (wn-b, wôn-) Informal n. One who aspires to a role or position. One who imitates the behavior, customs, or dress of an a[...]

SM is... by Unknown
Filed in: humor

*SM is watching the neighborhood kids play cops and robbers, and the look on the face of the one that has maneuvered herself into being the victim - all tied up and the center of attention. *SM is wh[...]

The Myth of the BDSM Symbol by cajunrose
Filed in: emblem, controversy

Have you been contacted by an AOL user known as Quagmyr and advised that you were violating U. S. and International copyright law by using the BDSM symbol on your site? Did Quagmyr tell that you had v[...]

What's with Switching, anyway? by Franklin Veaux
Filed in: switch, definitions

"How singular is the thing called pleasure, and how curiously related to pain, which might be thought to be the opposite of it; For they are never present to a man at the same instant, and yet he[...]

Domination for Nice Guys by Franklin Veaux
Filed in: dominance

So you're a nice guy. You think that people should be treated with respect and courtesy' you find violence, particularly violence against women, reprehensible; you would never, under any circumstance[...]

Slogans and Signature Lines by Unknown
Filed in: humor

Build a thousand bridges in your lifetime, but suck one dick, are you known forever as the bridge builder? Violet wands. They're everywhere you expect them to be. --Visa They're always after me lil [...]

A Submissive's Creed by Unknown
Filed in: submission, inspirational

1 I will communicate with complete honesty my needs, desires, limits, and experience. I realize that failing to do so will not only prevent my Top and I from from having the best experience possible, [...]

What to Expect at a Munch by Mistress Constance
Filed in: newbies, munches

If you've never been to a munch before, the prospect can be very intimidating. What should you expect, how should you behave, how should you dress, what might happen, what might not? When you add that[...]

Mentorship by Mistress Constance
Filed in: general knowledge, beginners, mentors

One of the words we hear a lot these days is "mentor." People talk about the need for mentors in our community. Novices are looking for mentors. More experienced people call themselves mento[...]

A Beginners Guide to Munches by Stu
Filed in: newbies, general knowledge, munches

This document may be copied only in it's entirety, including this header and the e-mail address at the bottom. It must not be edited or altered in any way. If you have comments/suggestions, please let[...]

Origin of RACK: RACK vs. SSC by Gary Switch
Filed in: general knowledge, ssc, rack

During a discussion of SSC (Safe, Sane, and Consensual) on the TES-Friends list, I proposed RACK (Risk-Aware, Consensual Kink) as an alternative. Here's my motivation: Nothing's perfectly safe. Cross[...]

Ten Commandments by Society of Janus
Filed in: dominance, submission, rules

Ten Rules for Dominants Ten Rules for Submissives 1 Be Patient Until you e[...]

Introduction to Spanking by Unknown
Filed in: spanking, beginners

POSITION & POSTURE One of the factors that sets spanking apart from other forms of swatting is the deliberate and sometimes ceremonial positioning of the participants. While some spankings are ha[...]

Presentation 4: Standing at the Ready by Norische
Filed in: training

When training in any form, the first thing that the slave must understand is that each owner is unique. Hence, the requirements of the owner are unique as well. However there are several basic positio[...]

Serve, Service and Servitude by Ms Lyn
Filed in: submission, service, definitions

What do you mean when you offer to serve? What do you mean when you offer to be of service? What do mean when you offer yourself in servitude? Do the answers to these questions bring up visions of [...]

Presentation 2: Casual Appearance by Norische
Filed in: training

Casual appearance refers to the general attire that a slave is expected to present on a standard basis. Some Owners prefer the slave to be nude and hence casual would be irrelevant. However, some Owne[...]

Afternoon Tea 1: An Experience in British Tea Service by Norische
Filed in: how-to, ritual, etiquette, service, protocol

Tea: A History While there are volumes of information about the rich and illustrious tradition of Tea Time in Britain, information of the earliest introduction of tea to England and its associates ar[...]

Afternoon Tea 2: What will you serve, and how to serve it? by Norische
Filed in: how-to, ritual, etiquette, service, protocol

Now that the basics have been covered lets move on to the invitation, menu and serving of a proper Afternoon tea. Invitations Invitations should be sent 10 to 14 days in advance, this should ensure [...]

Afternoon Tea 3: Recipes: From Traditional to Exotic by Norische
Filed in: how-to, ritual, etiquette, service, protocol

There are many excellent recipes out there that are completely acceptable when it comes to a traditional British Afternoon Tea; the following are just a few suggestions that one might consider. While [...]

Master's Banquet - A formal D/s Feast by Slave Dove
Filed in: ritual, service, food service, protocol

These dinners are what many would view as a "scene" but they are not play parties. No one is available for physical "use" it is formal Old Guard Domination and submission at its g[...]

Orientation 1: Service by Norische
Filed in: training

Service is one of the most primary, the most basic of terms within the BDSM realm. Service can loosely be defined as an act or work done by one individual to the benefit another, but what does service[...]

Guidelines for Conduct by Sergeant Major
Filed in: submission, training, rules

The role of a submissive at a public gathering is to add a sense of grace, charm and tranquillity to the event by the demonstration of their understanding of their chosen role. This is done through th[...]

Orientation 2: Baggage by Norische
Filed in: training

When I speak of baggage I do not speak of your trusty old set of Samsonite, I am speaking of emotional baggage. Emotional baggage is a laymen's term for the emotional turmoil and distress that each i[...]

Speech Training 10: Answering The Phone by Norische
Filed in: training, speech

Again this is an area that is Owner specific. Each Owner has a specific way they wish the phone to be answered and whether or not they wish the slave to answer the phone at all. If the slave is to an[...]

Speech Training 11: Introducing Another Individual by Norische
Filed in: training, speech

When introducing an individual the slave should take a few things into consideration prior to performing the introduction. The first thing to take into consideration is the preference of the Owner. I[...]

Presentation 1: Appearance by Norische
Filed in: training

The first point that should be made about a slave's appearance is that the slave is always a direct reflection of the Owner. While the Owner ordains the general appearance of the slave, the slave mus[...]

Speech Training 12: Language Limitations - Vulgar or Disrespectful Language by Norische
Filed in: training, speech

I will simply state that most Owners prefer that vulgar or socially inappropriate language be illuminated from the common vocabulary of the slave. I find that it is rare that an owner enjoys a slave t[...]

Speech Training 1: Introduction by Norische
Filed in: training, speech

Knowing how to properly introduce oneself is extremely important. An improper introduction can taint the entire conversation and perhaps slew the initial impression in a detrimental manner. As the old[...]

Speech Training 2: How To Apologize by Norische
Filed in: training, speech

One slave I was training stated quite blatantly that she would not apologize when told to do so, because she felt she gad done nothing wrong. Whether or not she had done something wrong was irrelevant[...]

Speech Training 3: Addressing Superiors by Norische
Filed in: training, speech

When addressing a superior remember never to assume anything. When first meeting an individual ask how he or she wishes to be addressed…for example" "Please forgive me, I do not know[...]

Speech Training 4: Addressing an Equal by Norische
Filed in: training, speech

A slave should always behave towards another individual as if the other individual is a superior until told to do otherwise, this rule would include slaves and submissives. A slave should not assume t[...]

Speech Training 5: Addressing a Subordinate by Norische
Filed in: training, speech

To address someone as a familiar, for example using first names, is permitted only after permission has been sought and given. It is best to ask permission of your Owner as well as the equal and if th[...]

Speech Training 6: Affirmative Answers by Norische
Filed in: training, speech

When a slave gives an affirmative answer he or she can be as simple or as elaborate as the Owner wishes. Saying "yes" can be done is a vast array of different ways. For example if the Owner[...]

Speech Training 7: Negative Answers by Norische
Filed in: training, speech

When a slave gives a negative answer he or she can again be as simple or as elaborate as the Owner wishes. Saying "no" can be done is a vast array of different ways. Some Owners do not allo[...]

Speech Training 8: Asking A Question by Norische
Filed in: training, speech

A slave must never be afraid to ask a question; however, to ask a question in an inappropriate manner is not to be tolerated. The first thing that a slave must understand is that many Owners do not a[...]

Presentation 8: Show Yourself by Norische
Filed in: training

This is a series of three separate positions joined together to create one fluid motion. This position is primarily used for the inspection and review of a slave. The movement from one position to the[...]

Speech Training 9: Answering The Door by Norische
Filed in: training, speech

This is one area that is Owner specific. Some Owners do not wish their slaves to answer the door, others demand it; some wish the slave to remain invisible, some wish the slave to act as a butler and [...]

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