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A Complete Erotic Massage (for Men or Women) by Society for Human Sexuality
Filed in: how-to, sex, massage

1. Start by setting the space. The room should be warm enough for someone to be comfortable lying down naked in it (at least 78 degrees). Play some soft music, and possibly burn some incense. Turn off[...]

Anal sex: A Delicate Decision by Cadillac Carter
Filed in: sex, anal sex

What is it about anal sex that makes us squirm? People pretend they don't do it when they do and many of us clam up because we don't. Anal sex is the last sexual act we find embarrassing to talk about[...]

Crash Course in Tantric Sex by Dzy
Filed in: sex

The practice of tantric sex begins with delayed gratification and really has to do with focus. Not a myopic focus on your beloved's genitals, but a really concerted effort to arouse, prolong arousal w[...]

The Clitoris: A how to of sorts by Author Unknown
Filed in: how-to, sex

I don't know if this is the same for every woman, so bear with me. A random sampling of my girlfriends made up this argument in the form of Public Service Announcement; your results may vary with othe[...]

Kegels by Mistress Steel
Filed in: sex

Many forms of BDSM scening involve or may involve activity to the pelvis, vagina and anus. Since a great number of women entering the lifestyle have had children it is not uncommon for many women to h[...]

Masturbation by Tamar Love
Filed in: how-to, sex

Masturbation used to be an utterly taboo subject. We were told touching ourselves was dirty and wrong, that if we did it we'd go crazy or grow hair on our palms. If these lies were spread to keep us f[...]

Sensuality Explored by Sean The Dom
Filed in: sex, general knowledge

Sensuality and sexuality are entities unto themselves. They are genderless, totally self-contained, and motivated spirits. If the body is alive, then we possess some sensuality, some sexuality. Some m[...]

The Selective Slut by Kayla Kuffs
Filed in: sex, submissives, sexuality, slut, bdsm lifestyle

The first time I was called a slut in a BDSM context I was extremely insulted. How dare they? How rude! But I was too new to this lifestyle to do anything more than think those words. I did however, n[...]

Giving Erotic Massage by Unknown
Filed in: sex, massage, learning, erotic massage, sex tips

Relaxing Your Partner's Body Start by connecting with your partner. There may be specific ways you and your partner prefer to do this. If not, try kind words, soft gazing into each other's eyes, sync[...]

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