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Play Party Etiquette by Non-Famous Lauren
Filed in: etiquette, protocol, play

The following document contains some valuable information about BDSM play party etiquette. It was written for users of the Usenet newsgroup alt.sex.bondage, and is intended to cover both events held i[...]

Top Hat and Tails: The Basics of Formal Protocol by Norische
Filed in: protocol

Protocol - a series of rules and behaviors that are deemed appropriate and expected for certain circumstances. Formal Protocol - a rigorous series of structured behaviors that are used to focus atten[...]

Is It House Broke? Protocol Within Your Own Home by Norische
Filed in: training, protocol

What is protocol? Protocol - a series of rules and behaviors that are deemed appropriate and expected for certain circumstances. In today's BDSM society there is no set rules for protocol. Some port[...]

On My Honor: Understanding the Moral Obligations of a Dominant by Norische
Filed in: dominance, d/s, protocol

What is a Dominant's moral obligation to his or her slave? This is a very interesting question, one that can be answered in many manners. In order to understand what a Dominant\'s moral obligation to[...]

Pecking Order: Multiple Slave Households by Norische
Filed in: training, slavery, protocol

Many individuals prefer multiple slaves/subs within the BDSM lifestyle. Several households have two, three, or more slaves/subs; in all honesty it is not unusual for an owner to prefer two or three sl[...]

Afternoon Tea 1: An Experience in British Tea Service by Norische
Filed in: how-to, ritual, etiquette, service, protocol

Tea: A History While there are volumes of information about the rich and illustrious tradition of Tea Time in Britain, information of the earliest introduction of tea to England and its associates ar[...]

Afternoon Tea 2: What will you serve, and how to serve it? by Norische
Filed in: how-to, ritual, etiquette, service, protocol

Now that the basics have been covered lets move on to the invitation, menu and serving of a proper Afternoon tea. Invitations Invitations should be sent 10 to 14 days in advance, this should ensure [...]

Afternoon Tea 3: Recipes: From Traditional to Exotic by Norische
Filed in: how-to, ritual, etiquette, service, protocol

There are many excellent recipes out there that are completely acceptable when it comes to a traditional British Afternoon Tea; the following are just a few suggestions that one might consider. While [...]

Master's Banquet - A formal D/s Feast by Slave Dove
Filed in: ritual, service, food service, protocol

These dinners are what many would view as a "scene" but they are not play parties. No one is available for physical "use" it is formal Old Guard Domination and submission at its g[...]

Every ROSE Has A Thorn: Honor, Respect and Protocol Amongst Dominants by Norische
Filed in: dominance, rules, etiquette, protocol

Recently a submissive I was communicating with informed me that a Domme from Missouri, where I am from, told him that I was a fake. He would not give me the specifics but in general he stated that thi[...]

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