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Essays Tagged: Lifestyle



Red Flags, Warning Signs, and Intuition: Learning to Trust You Instincts - Part One: Dominants by Norische
Filed in: newbies, lifestyle, dangers

Within this lifestyle there are unfortunately many dangers, there are people out there using the BDSM lifestyle as a way to abuse or use individuals under an umbrella of acceptance.

Red Flags, Warning Signs, and Intuition: Learning to Trust You Instincts- Part 2: Submissives/Slaves by Norische
Filed in: newbies, lifestyle, dangers

The BDSM lifestyle harbors many dangers, oddly enough most people think only about the dangers to the submissive or slave and not to those dangers present for the Dominant. Among the thousands of dedicated, hard working, honest and disciplined submissives and slaves there are those few that pose a danger.

Just Wait Till Your Father Gets Home: Telling Your Family by Norische
Filed in: leather, lifestyle, outting

Coming out to your family; reactions and how to break the barriers

Our Absolute Lifestyle by Master Eso
Filed in: leather, lifestyle, scene

About the corrosion of the public scene

Coming out of the Closet by dark whisper
Filed in: leather, lifestyle, outting, family

I recently found myself in the unique position of having to try to "explain" dominance and submission. One afternoon, out of the blue, I wrote to my sister and told her not only that I was a[...]

Defining The Bdsm Life Style: The Essential Prerequisite by Jon Jacobs and Polly Peachum
Filed in: general knowledge, lifestyle

(Their text as delivered during the 10/08/96 Expression Productions discussion on IRC)