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The 12 Days of Kinky Christmas by Unknown
Filed in: humor
On the 1st day of Christmas, my master gave to me... A Small Feather Pillow for my knees. On the 2nd day of Christmas, my master gave to me... 2 Nipple Clamps and a Small Feather Pillow for my knees. On the 3rd day of Christmas, my master gave to me... 3 Blindfolds, 2 Nipple Clamps and a Small [...]
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More Things NOT to Say to your Dominant... by blushRedTail
Filed in: humor
- Is that the BEST You can do? - There is no such thing as long enough or hard enough... - i have NO limits - You wouldn't DARE do that... - i can take whatever You dish out. - That wouldn't be enough for me... - i've had better - You're not d[...]
Need, Of A Masochist by Tonja
Filed in: submission, masochism, desire, needs, need, acceptance
This is a concept I have, only really in the 2 years, been trying to define and understand as it applies to me individually.As a masochist, newer than some, and perhaps much more inexperienced than most would believe, I struggled in the beginning with even admitting to having such a need. It was alm[...]
Kids and BDSM by kaya
Filed in: outting, bdsm, safety, raising children, precautions
My daughter found the key and rifled through our toybox about two years ago. She was 12. This absolutely and completely traumatized her. She had enough knowledge (most likely from the internet) to know what dildos and vibes and plugs were, cuffs and whips are pretty self-explanatory. Once it's found[...]
Lessons Shared by kaya
Filed in: dominance, submission, humor, d/s, m/s
As anyone who reads my journal could tell you, I am far from the "perfect" slave. I slip and fumble, make mistakes, make the same one again... and again... routinely. But, tirelessly, my Master, saint that He is, never gives up on me. And over the course of time I have learned a thing or t[...]
Fisting (Vaginal that is) by chelgrrl
Filed in: how-to, fisting, safety, tips, vaginal fisting, large object insertion
I get a lot of responses when I say to people that I love to be fisted. Of course there is the Fister, the person who does the fisting and the Fistee, the one receiving the fist. Women fistees react in a few ways when they hear the word. Some will be scared (the “eep” response that happe[...]
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Orgasm Control by gina
Filed in: orgasm control, denial, training, submissive training
My Master and i practice Orgasm Control which is also known as Release Training. It is NOT the same thing as Orgasm Denial which both my Master and i do not feel is healthy. We have an agreement that i will never go longer than one month without having an orgasm. Usually [...]
Qualities of A Successful Dominant by Polly Peachum
Filed in: dominance
"The Problems Started After I Moved In" When talking to submissive women about their lives and relationships, the most frequent cause of sorrow and difficulty that gets mentioned is the transition from a non-live-in D&S relationship to a full-time live-in situation. Relationships that[...]
What NOT to say to your Dominant... by Author Unknown
Filed in: humor
Pushing limits does not mean making Master so angry the vein above his right eye throbs. "Quit it!" "Ow, damnit!" "I'm hiding that toy when you go to work tomorrow" and cursing a blue streak are not safe words. "Oh my god, where did you get those, they are gorgeous[...]
A Master's Creed by Author Unknown
Filed in: inspirational
For people who wonder about a D/s relationship and often feel it is "degrading" to a woman, this should clear it up. True D/s involves much love, respect, and trust. Here is what one Master wrote and I agreed with it completely. To me it epitomizes everything that should be in every D/s re[...]
Blind Faith by Mistress Steel
Filed in: submission
BLIND: To conceal or to put something forward for the purpose of misleading. Subterfuge. One who acts to the point of insensibility. FAITH: To trust, give allegiance or loyalty to another. Fidelity to one's promises. Or, a firm belief in something for which there is no proof. It can also mean to of[...]
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glory replied to Establishing a Protocol
This is well done. It covers a lot of area. It is especially helpful to subs who need to know that expressing their views/ needs is legitimate. It points out things which keep the relationship "Up" and running.Ann replied to A Hot Time In The Old Dungeon Tonight: The Basics of Figging
I am so glad to see information about figging. It is as you say a very intense experience. Poppy and I have been using ginger for a couple of years. When we first read about it we were intrested, then sometime later we spotted it in the prod
Lisa replied to Lessons Learned
Stumbled onto your site through a link, this was lol funny thanks for the laugh I really needed it today.trish replied to Fear
i have to echo the last word that you wrote......amazing.....!!!!!!!!
glory replied to Kids and BDSM
My son accidentally saw some pics of me I had stored on the computer. He was working in my account looking for videos. These were videos that had been taken by accident, intended to be pics, but the camera was on the wrong setting. I had them stor