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Munch Directory

Munch: A discreet social gathering of BDSM people, usually in a restaurant, with the people dressed in "regular clothing". People usually exchange tricks and beliefs about the BDSM lifestyle, in a non threatening situation. A great way to meet others in the BDSM lifestyle safely.

Come find a gathering near you! Your munch group not listed? Get it added here!


Leathermen's Discussion Group

    NCBDSM is a social organization for individuals seeking a supportive environment for exploring alternative sexuality, specifically the exploration of the BDSM/Leather lifestyle. NCBDSM is an organization uniting the northern California BDSM community in an active exchange of information.

    This group is dedicated to the kinky BBW

     In California - from Monterey and Santa Cruz to Boulder Creek and San Jose we draw a wide variety of perves interested in the many aspects of Kinky Activities.

Los Angeles

Avatar Club
    Avatar is a private non-profit educational and social club established in 1983 for gay men with an interest in BDSM. We teach safe, sane and consensual BDSM techniques to anyone interested in learning.

The Los Angeles Boys of Leather
    We provide a forum for people who identify with the submissive side of leathersex and BDSM to meet others with similar interests, and thus similar concerns, issues, and experiences to share.

We offer a means for such individuals to network within the leather community. The concept of 'assisted networking' is especially important to the newer members of the community. For example, if a question is asked of a LAboL member and they do not know the answer, chances are they will be able to direct the curious individual to someone who does.

The Threshold Society, Inc.
    Threshold is a non-profit educational and support organization for adults (21 and older) who have an interest in sadomasochism and other activities involved in the safe and consensual exchange of power.

Los Angeles, San Diego

    Dualities was created to be a safe space for people who enjoy both sides of the D/s or S/m coin to discuss and explore their journey.

Northern California

The Northern California Ladies Tea and Discussion Society
    Ladies in Northern California are welcome to apply for membership in our society Your orientation is not an issue, nor is your involvement in D/s important. Just a congenial personality and in interest in joining our group.  (We are only open to genetic/transsexual ladies, or those tvs who seriously identify as ladies. This means TVs are welcome if they LIVE as ladies all the time. This is a female supremacist group.)

Orange County

OC Foodie Munch

We're a group of local kinksters that meets at a different restaurant every month. Our rules: No fast food, no diners, and no chain restaurants. We meet every second Wednesday at a different location.  The information on upcoming events can be found on our website.  

Our palettes as aberrant as our behavior. If you like unconventional conversation with unconventionally delicious food our events are deliciously deviant.


    "T"ransitions Is for new D&s, B&D, or S&M lifestylers of all flavors.

    The EroticEdge is a Sacramento based BDSM Group offering a forum for free thought and information for the newcomer

Sacramento Area Kinksters
    SAK was formed 1986 in Sacramento, CA to give people who have an interest in BDSM the opportunity to meet with other like-minded people. SAK is a pansexual organization, accepting of all inclinations as long as all participants are consenting adults.

    Interested in Newcomer Lifestyle Issues or just sharing 'bout the lifestyle? "T4Transitions" Is for new lifestylers of all flavors. Our guideline for list "etiquette" is mutual respect coupled with common sense. The experienced are welcomed and considered living libraries (smiles)...

San Diego

Club X, Inc.
    Club X, Inc. is San Diego's largest pansexual leather/ BDSM fetish group. Our primary goal is that of education with secondary goals of activism and social activities. We hold monthly meetings to this end. Among those are regular workshops that cover various aspects of safe, sane, consensual, and fun leather BDSM and SM fetish play. We also hold regular social gatherings, special events, play parties, fundraisers, special interest group meetings, and our monthly Board meetings.

San Diego BDSM events
    A list started to allow the exchange of personals and personal thoughs, questions, and event announcemtns by people in or interested in the BD SM lifestyle in San Diego. This list was started by a San Diego Master (Master_of_the_Deep), but is open to all variations, with these rules: 1) no non-personals ads (BD SM event announcements are OK), 2)no one under the age of 18, and 3) respect for A/all.

    This is the place for keeping informed about lifestyle events, socials & munches, chating and important educational and safety issues for the local San Diego area.

San Francisco

    The Exiles is a social and educational group for women who have a positive personal interest in BDSM between women. The group will provide educational and social events where people with all levels of experience will have a safe place to meet, explore and share information about safety, play techniques and resources, and connect with the leather community locally and nationally.

San Francisco Defenders

SF Citadel
     SF Citadel is a 5,400 square foot facility. Two floors are well appointed for all sort of uses.

Society of Janus
     The Society of Janus is a nonprofit, volunteer run, San Francisco-based education & support organization devoted to the art of safe, consensual, and non-exploitative power exchange.

We organize Educational programs featuring a variety of BDSM topics and issues and Social events providing opportunity for community interactions.

San Francisco Bay Area

    Whether this is your first foray into sensation or role play or you are a highly-skilled veteran of the leather/BDSM scene, smOdyssey is here for you. By way of classes, workshops, social gatherings, discussion groups, on-line forums, and community outreach events, smOdyssey provides you with many opportunities to share your experience, enthusiasm and enjoyment with peers in the southern San Francisco Bay area and beyond.

The Stampede
    Based in the San Francisco Bay Area, we are one of the nation's largest organized ponyplay and human animal roleplay groups. The Stampede is pansexual, and is open to all people 18 years of age or older. We draw people with an interest in human animal roleplaying from within Northern California to as far away as Europe.

San Jose

San Jose BDSM

Santa Clara County Leather Association
    We are a social and educational Leather/Fetish/BDSM community. We serve the greater San Jose and 'South bay' area of Northern California. We play together, work together and have fun!

Southern California

Orange Coast Leather Assembyl (OCLA)
    Orange Coast Leather Assembly (OCLA) is an education and outreach organization for the Leather, S/M and Fetish community in Orange County, Long Beach,South Bay, Greater L.A. and the surrounding areas of Southern California.

OCLA is an assembly of adults that shares an interest in the consensual and safe practices of Leather, BDSM Play, Fetish and Kink.

The Gathering

Suisun City

Suisun BDSM

Suisun BDSM holds a munch on the last Wednesday of each month. This is one of the newest munches in the Bay area (About 6 months old), but also one of the friendliest, and fastest growing. We started with just a handful of friends gathering together to talk about the lifestyle, and now we average around 30 members per munch. It is a great event for first timers, as it is not as 'overwhelming' as some of the larger ones.

For more information, please see the group weblink, or contact mysely at:

Thank you.