Anal Odyssey
Author: Mistress G and Alan
Filed in: health and safety, anal sex, scene
Why incorporate anal play into D/S scenes?
- It feels good; the area is sensitive and erotic, interconnected to sexual organs
- Produces a feeling of vulnerability and of penetration and power exchange
- Creates a special sense of intimacy; increases options for both top and bottom
- It is naughty and forbidden
- Allows access to the prostate in males
Things to know before starting anal play
- Understand anal area: Start slow, pain is not a part of anal play
- Communication: Discuss inhibitions, limits, health issues, prior experience
- Disease protection and cleanliness, lubrication and gradual dilation
- Safe, soft and rounded toys, different toys lead to different experiences
- Plan scenes and games that incorporate anal exploration
Understanding the anal area
- The anus is 1 1/2" long and opens into a larger area called the rectum. The rectum ends and turns abruptly about 8" from the outside.
- The anus is the most sensitive part. The rectum has much less sensation. The anus is sensitive to motion and dilation. The rectum is sensitive to pressure and expansion.
- There is an external sphincter and a tighter internal sphincter
- The muscles of the anus connect to muscles around the rest of the pelvis. Anus is connected to other pelvic nerves - skin and inside are exceptionally well innervated
- The anal/rectal lining is easily abraded. Also rapidly absorbs water, etc.
- The prostate is located just inside the internal sphincter towards the belly
- Prostate hardens, pulsates and contracts right before ejaculation
- The rectum shares a common wall with the vagina
- Pain or bleeding are red flags in this area. Stop, reassess, and go slower next time. Seek medical attention if pain or bleeding persists.
Communication and Setting the stage for a good experience
- Anal play is not usually an entire scene, but is incorporated into a scene. Examples: Nurse or doctor/patient exam, adult baby scenes, rape fantasy, feminization, orgasm control.
- Acknowledge natural issues of anal play; feces, gas, accidents, loss of control
- Discuss limits of size of toys, thrusting vs. penetration, pre-play enema or enema as part of the scene. Discuss the fantasy and how it relates to the technical aspects of play and what works into the scene
Safety issues - Disease prevention, lubrication, dilation
- Generous use of lube; tissues are fragile and have little natural lubrication.
Do not share lube, especially lube in jars - bacteria and viruses abound.
Water based lubes (KY, astroglide, etc.) can be drying. The colon absorbs water rapidly. You need to continuously reapply these.
Oil based lube (Vaseline, Crisco, etc) coat the walls better and do not dry. May keep HIV alive, dissolve latex condoms.
Options: Use polyurethane condoms for toy protection and do not share anal toys.
Sterilize toys if shared, do not rely on condoms for protection. - Use gloves - latex is smoother than vinyl, change gloves frequently if using oil based lube - risk of disease transmission through cuts in finger.
- Avoid anal to vagina contact to prevent vaginal and bladder infection
- Dilation - start with a finger. It is erotic and intimate and allows assessment of sensitivity of tissues. Dilate slowly with several toys and give bottom time to adjust. Avoid spasm, remove and insert several times if needed.
Toys and techniques
- The finger is the best toy. Aim towards the navel. Enter slowly, explore, thrust, probe and massage. Add more fingers slowly if desired and dilate. Lots of verbal teasing is fun. Prostate stimulation in men.
- Dildoes: Many different sizes and shapes. Use smooth, rounded objects, soft if possible. Do not force in, slide in and increase size gradually. Try to use toys that have a flared end. Do not lose toy inside and do not try to penetrate more than 7-8". Avoid toys with wires inside.
- Strap-on dildoes: Excellent for male submissives. Make sure angle is comfortable for both.
- Butt plugs: Many sizes, can be retained (water based lube can dry with long plugging). Creates both dilation experience and fullness.
- Vibrators: Dildoes, butt plugs and eggs. Vibrations pass to prostate, vagina, and pelvis. Can be felt by partner. May help sphincter to relax.
- Other objects: Avoid sharp, brittle, toxic materials or objects which can be trapped inside.
- Enemas: Use for aesthetics, pleasure or punishment. Creates strong fullness feeling, urgency and surrender of control. Plain, soapsuds, wine. 2 quart is average, larger is possible with experience. Suppositories before increase pressure. Aim for warm, not hot. Smaller enemas can be retained longer. Watch for electrolyte depletion if using multiple enemas. Do not use excessive bag height. Use straight tips, retention tips or inflatable tip. Risk of accident, especially in bondage. Leave room for abdominal expansion. Enema scenes take time.
- Anal Beads: Interesting sensation when withdrawn slowly, especially with orgasm.
- Ice - Very intense, yet soothing. Do not use directly from freezer. Use small, rounded pieces
- Anal intercourse: Use a condom, go slow, use comfortable position - sling is great
- Rimming (oral/anal): Can be done to top or bottom, same sensation with different meanings
- Electrical: Pes and Tens. Start at low powers, gives a pulsing almost thrusting sensation. Tie in firmly. Try to match pulsing rate to bottom's rhythm. Muscles can fatigue.
- Fisting: Learn from someone with experience - take time to get used to larger objects.
Play examples
- Bondage and orgasm control: Monitor the prostate contraction with finger and stop stimulating at edge of orgasm and repeat multiple times. Add punishment and tasks
- Hard spanking before anal intercourse or strap-on until begging for penetration
- Cross-dressing and finish with role reversal and a strap-on dildo
- Bondage and anal intercourse with vaginal vibrator
- Insert a vibrating egg or butt plug, then have vaginal intercourse. Works with vibrator in male or female and transmits sensations to partner. Enhanced by bondage.
- Vibrators in both vagina and anus and immobilizing bondage and gag
- Leave vibrator inside rectum and go out to dinner, etc. Buzz bottom repeatedly.
- Bottom needs to retain enema for specified time (increase difficulty with soap or suppositories) to reach orgasm. Punishment if released early, then repeat enema.
- Detailed, lengthy pelvic medical exam with various devices inserted - enemas too.
References
- Anal Pleasure and Health by Jack Morin
- The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women by Tristin Taormino
- http://www.sexuality.org/l/fetish/enemafaq.html
Presented at BR99 by Mistress G and Alan
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