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One Dom's Point of View...

Author: Michael P.

Filed in: dominance, inspirational

I am a dominant man. I am just that. I am not dominant because of any superiority on my part. Not because I feel I am more intelligent, or wiser. I am not dominant because of the strength or mass of my body. I am not, nor would I want to be dominant with all women. Yet to you, I am Master.


I am your Master only after earning your trust and I embrace your submissiveness. I have looked into your heart and mind and clearly see your desires and passions. You have thrown away your fears and inhibitions. You tell me of the needs of your heart and body. You have given me total access to your soul, and I accept the responsibility and honor.


You are a woman. You are not weak or inferior because of it. You are a treasure to be cherished. We are not equal. I have the strength of body and mind and the instinctive need to protect, possess, defend and provide for you. You are a woman and instinctively stronger of will and heart. Your belief in me gives me courage and direction. Your strength disperses my doubt. Your needs and desires encourage and give purpose to my efforts.


We are not equal. We are halves of a whole. We compliment each other and make each other complete. My desire to dominate you is instinctive. It is not to degrade you nor is it degrading to you because you are secure in being totally feminine. We each recognize and accept our worth, and our need for someone to trust and fulfill our needs.


You are sure, strong and proud in your womanhood. You do not submit as acceptance of inferiority, but from strength and passion. You expect a man to stand strong and be a man. You desire and flourish in the strength and control of a man. In return you present control of your body, unqualified trust and honesty, and the faithfulness of your heart. You submit because I have earned your trust. Because I have opened my heart and soul to you. Because I have listened to your words with my ears and heart and have learned to anticipate your needs and emotions. And because I have proven worthy in your eyes, you have given me the only true treasure of life; you have given me dominance over you.


What you give is not abnormal, but pure, natural and the rarest gift a woman give a man. You have given me complete and unshakable assurance of your commitment to me. Your submissiveness is a magnificent gift and sacred responsibility. I accept this from you with humility and joy. I understand the rarity and purity of this gift. I recognize it is your body and soul, your heart and mind. I dominate you only because you have allowed it. I dominate only because you have allowed me to and when I see your body kneel before me, in my mind and heart you are raised above all other woman, and all the treasures of the earth. What you give freely can not in reality be bought.





This essay was written in February 1994 and posted to the Compuserve Human Sexuality/Variations II© message board then later into the library with the copyright after I was asked what my personal perceptions and thoughts on dominance were. It started quite a ruckus even though I had a lengthy and I thought clear preamble explaining that it was gender specific and only related to me. It was and is a personal statement and not intended to be a Dominant Manifesto or pontification. There were roughly 1500 messages on that thread before it died out. Had I known my clearly stated personal perceptions were somehow open to dissection and critique I probably would have refrained from posting it. In the six years these words have been on Compuserve© they have been reprinted at least 12 times that I know of. Some were with my copyright and authorship acknowledged, some without and others with another person claiming authorship. On one occasion a Gor related site refused to accept my claim so I had to sic Compuserve© on them and their ISP. When faced with a legal date stamp and the Bern Convention copyright and the clauses pertaining to original intellectual works published on the net they wisely corrected the situation.


Anyone who thinks these words say what they feel can certainly use them. Do keep in mind that the internet, as large as it is, isn't a place so large that ideas get lost. Quite the opposite is true. If you use the thoughts of another then say they are those of another, like you'd present a poem or a quote. A gift as well as the seriousness and sanctity of D/s are cheapened with lies. It certainly shows what the real content of character is if words given as coming from the heart are seen later as coming from deceit.

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