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Author: Mistress Steel

Filed in: sex

Many forms of BDSM scening involve or may involve activity to the pelvis, vagina and anus. Since a great number of women entering the lifestyle have had children it is not uncommon for many women to have weakened pelvic muscles. The loss of muscular definition or control in the pelvis or anus may limit the range of play in this area. Some women will already be familiar with these exercises as they are becoming more commonly recommended for women during pregnancy when there is an increased risk of urine leakage due to pressure in the pelvis upon the bladder and urethra.

Kegels are exercises which involve the pelvic 'floor'. These muscles support the urethra, bladder, uterus and rectum. These exercises are or should be painless and over a 3 month period should reduce or significantly improve the ability of the woman to control urine loss. (Please note that urine should not be held for long periods of time in the bladder and these exercises are not to encourage any couple to believe that such 'holding' is healthy or safe for the individual woman! These exercises are to develop and strengthen muscles to prevent accidental leakage from weak or weakened muscles. Please consult your physician for the exact medical ramifications of any 'extended' control play prior to engaging in such activity.)

To identify the proper muscles the woman should place her finger (please wash hands with soap and water first!) in her vagina and squeeze. When she feels pressure 'around' her finger she is using the correct muscles. When first beginning these exercises it is suggested that the woman check herself frequently to be certain she is using the right muscles since these are subtle or hidden muscles in an area of the body where it is easy to err. The woman should focus directly on the muscles which are active in this exercise. She should make sure that she is in a comfortable relaxed state and position (either lying down or sitting comfortably) and that she is flexing only the vaginal muscles. These exercises do not involve abdominal muscles, thigh or back muscles. She should contract the vaginal muscles to the count of four and relax to the count of four and repeat this for at five minutes a day, twice a day to begin. She should increase the time count and duration of the exercises as the muscles strengthen. A beginner should start with their knees together and slowly (over the course of 3 months) learn to open or spread the legs to intensify the exercises. At 3 months the woman should be able to hold the vaginal muscles to a count of 8-10 with her knees spread. Optimum control is maintained by doing this 'set' of exercises every 12 hours for 5 minutes. Please consult your physician if you have any persistent medical problem, urinal leakage, discoloration, pain or discharge. The female urination system is a 'fragile' system and should be monitored closely by every woman and every effort to protect bodily health and well being should be taken.

It is not the purpose of this article to provide all information that is available on this topic, but to compliment, amplify and supplement other texts and resources. You are urged to read all the available material, learn as much as possible to fit your individual needs. It is not the intent of the author of this article to provide professional services or advice, if legal or expert assistance is required by you then you should seek out the services of a competent professional. The author of this article shall have neither liability nor responsibility to any person or entity with respect to any loss or damage caused, or alleged to be caused, directly or indirectly by the information contained above

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