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Predators by Silent Intruder
Filed in: health and safety, d/s
It never ceases to amaze Me that sane, intelligent M/men and W/women seem to become mere children at the hands of a smooth-talking Dom/me (or sub)....putty to be molded and shaped and crafted into so[...]
Seven Pillars of Dominance by J. Mikael Togneri
Filed in: dominance, inspirational
The topic of experience often comes up when discussing BDSM. Experience is the sum-total of everything we have learned in a given field, and everything that we will learn in future. I was born dominan[...]
Finding a Dominant Woman by Author Unknown
Filed in: relationships, d/s, dating
Many newcomers are anxious to meet and get close to a FemDom (aka female dominant). Quite a number make common mistakes. One grammatical mistake quickly comes to mind: using the word "dominate&qu[...]
A Dominant's Creed by Author Unknown
Filed in: dominance, inspirational
Above all else a Dom/me cherishes Their submissive, in the knowledge that the gift the submissive gives Them is the greatest gift of all. A Dom/me is demanding and takes full advantage of the power g[...]
Sensuality Explored by Sean The Dom
Filed in: sex, general knowledge
Sensuality and sexuality are entities unto themselves. They are genderless, totally self-contained, and motivated spirits. If the body is alive, then we possess some sensuality, some sexuality. Some m[...]
Fireplay by Lady Gwyneth Rose
Filed in: how-to, fire play, beginners
I have done fireplay on many occasions...please NOTE here... fireplay is one of the edgier types of play and should NOT be attempted without being shown how to do so properly FIRST and just reading an[...]
Hot Wax by Lady Gwyneth Rose
Filed in: how-to, wax play
Ahhh, hot candlewax... hot wax... even the sibilant sound as it rolls off the tongue is deliciously decadent... hot waxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxsssssssssssss... much as the sound of the droplets hitting the f[...]
Violet Wands by Lady Gwyneth Rose
Filed in: toys, electroplay
Ahhh, violet wands... the lovely little glass tubes that become a luminescent purple and emit purple little sparks when they are activated. The violet wand has been around for a very long time indeed [...]
One Woman's Views on Submission by dark whisper
Filed in: submission
Who am I? I have asked myself that question at least a thousand times, especially since I began to walk the path of submission. This path is not easily trod at times. It challenges one to move [...]
What a slave needs... by David Stein
Filed in: slavery
Some late-night thoughts i felt were worth sharing: Slaves, and those who seek to be slaves, are constantly advised not to be self-centered and not to focus on our needs and desires but rather those o[...]
How to Spot a Non-Dominant by COUNtess VelVEEta
Filed in: dominance, newbies, general knowledge
Karen said, in her preamble on How to Spot a Nondominant Male:"I am quite convinced that the BDSM community has become a haunting ground, and a hunting ground, for vanilla males who resent the fe[...]
A Dominant is NOT... by Author Unknown
Filed in: dominance, humor
1. The 'I Am Dom Hear Me Roar' Dom: All shiny new leather wear, with a belt full of toys just bought at Jack's Whip-O-Rama). Of *course* he knows what to do! He read SM101... and even watched Exit To [...]
Vanilla-isms: Causes and Cures by Lady Green
Filed in: speech, vanilla
The psychotherapeutic establishment is still struggling to understand the subset of sexual activity characterized by hysterical insistence on the appearance of complete equality at all times, as well [...]
Southern Baptist Submission by Author Unknown
Filed in: humor, religion
GADFLY'S ONLINE CHRISTIAN BONDAGE AND DOMINATION STOREIn support of the recent Southern Baptist edict that women should "submit to their husbands," we have acquired an inventory of beginning[...]
30 Harsh Things To Say To A Naked Guy by Author Unknown
Filed in: humor
1. I've smoked fatter joints than that.2. Ahhhh, it's cute.3. Why don't we just cuddle?4. You know they have surgery to fix that.5. Make it dance.6. Can I paint a smiley face on it?7. Wow, and your [...]
How to be a Really Obnoxious Dominant by Author Unknown
Filed in: humor
~ Insist that all Bondage play be done only with Silly string.~ For gagging, use Giant Supersourball Bubble gum, found in Grocery vending machines.~ When your sub starts turning blue from too-tight bo[...]
10 Reasons We Need a Submissive as President by Author Unknown
Filed in: submission, humor
10. A submissive is ready to serve 24/79. She is very protective8. She knows how to negotiate7. She is not afraid of being told when she had done something wrong, most of the time she will tell on her[...]
The Internet Letter to Dr. Laura Schlessinger by Author Unknown
Filed in: online
Dear Dr. Laura:Thank you for doing so much to educate people regarding G-d's Law. I have learned a great deal from your show, and I try to share that knowledge with as many people as I can. When someo[...]
What NOT to say to your Dominant... by Author Unknown
Filed in: humor
Pushing limits does not mean making Master so angry the vein above his right eye throbs. "Quit it!" "Ow, damnit!" "I'm hiding that toy when you go to work tomorrow" and c[...]
Online BDSM Dictionary by Author Unknown
Filed in: online, definitions
:::Thwack:::The noise made by the keys as they are tapped to spell out 'whip'. :::Kneeling quietly:::What subs post to remind their Masters or Mistresses that they are still online. :::12" shaft [...]
Healthy Breast Bondage by Susan Wright
Filed in: health and safety, bondage, breasts
This document brings together information available on breast trauma and hypoxemia, usually quoting verbatim from the sources. Most of the information in Healthy Breast Bondage was found on the intern[...]
D/s Medical Advice: Prevention and Treatment of Injuries / Adverse Conditions by A D/s Physician
Filed in: health and safety
Table of Contents:Introduction Sexually Transmitted DiseaseRisk Factors Partial List of Diseases PreventionInjuries: Prevention and TreatmentThe Importance of the Right Partner Safety Tips Drugs and A[...]
The Dominant's First Aid Kit by SAADE
Filed in: dominance, health and safety, play
This material is the exclusive property of SAADE and may be reproduced and shared if accompanied with this notice at the top of the document. Assemble one first aid kit for your home[...]
Dealing with Law Enforcement at Your Door by Sir Bamm!
Filed in: how-to, health and safety, legal
Hopefully the time will never come that this happens to you: You�re in the middle of a play party, your guests are in various states of undress, your friends are beating and being beaten and there�s a[...]
Developing sub/slave Training Programs Part 1: The Assessment Phase by SAADE
Filed in: submission, training
Opening Statement:It is an awesome responsibility when someone asks you for training. Novice Dominants often jump at the chance to prove their prowess without thinking about the time commitment and t[...]
Emergency Training for SM Practioners by Jay Wiseman
Filed in: health and safety, training, sm
A young woman is being hoisted in suspension bondage when the winch handle slips from her Master's hand and she plummets back to the floor. A man strains at the cuffs holding his hands above his head [...]
Developing sub/slave Training Programs Part 2: The Training Phase by SAADE
Filed in: submission, training
The Training Program:Here we begin use the information gathered from the assessment phase. I divide the programming two categories: 1) Basic Training and 2) Advanced or specialty training.Basic Train[...]
Developing sub/slave Training Programs Part 3: Using Contracts by SAADE
Filed in: submission, training, contracts
We present the following true story for your education. It is important to know that the contracts we enter into are not legally binding and will most likely be dismissed by law enforcement and court[...]
