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BDSM Play Partner Checklist

Author: Sovereign House

Filed in: negotiation, play, scene, checklist



The more information a Top knows about their bottom, the safer and more exciting their playtime can be. Remember… communication is the key to all relationships, BDSM and vanilla alike!

Below is a list of BDSM activities… please put 2 answers next to each item. Don’t be overwhelmed by this list. Take your time and answer as honestly and as best you can. Your answers will change over and over as you gain more experience in the scene. You should fill out this form every so often to let your Top know about new things you are interested/not interested in!

The first answer should be, if you’ve ever tried that activity before
• Yes = I have participated in this activity before
• No = I have not participated in this activity before
The second answer should be your interest in engaging in that activity on a scale of 0 – 5, NO,?, +, ! or a combination.
• 0 = I have no interest/don’t like this, but would do it to please you.
• 1 = Not very interesting/don’t really enjoy this too much.
• 2 = This is OK,
• 3 = This is nice/fun/interesting
• 4 = I really enjoy/think I’ll enjoy this activity
• 5 = I LOVE THIS/CAN’T WAIT TO TRY THIS
• NO = Hard limit. I will not participate in this activity at all, at this time.
• ? = Unfamiliar with this activity.
• + = I’m scared of this but would possibly like to explore it.
• ! = I’m embarrassed to admit I like this.
Examples:
Flogging: Yes/5 (Have done it before/LOVE IT!)
Cutting: No/+ (Have never tried/scared of this but might like to try it)
Golden Shower: No/5! (Have never done it/really exciting/embarrassed to admit it)
Fluffernutting: No/? (Have never done it/what the heck is it????)
Tickling: Yes/5+! (Have done this before/love it/scared of it/embarrassed I like it)
Also please feel free to write any explanations or more information after your answers.

Examples:
Flogging: Yes/5 - I especially love to be flogged on my back!!!
Tickling: Yes/5+! - My feet are my most ticklish place but I didn’t tell you that!

Abrasion:
Age Play:
Anal Sex:
Arm/Leg Sleeves:
Asphyxiation:
Beating hard:
Beating soft:
Begging/Pleading:
Being Blindfolded:
Being Gagged:
Bestiality:
Biting:
Bondage (heavy):
Bondage (light):
Boot Worship:
Branding:
Breast bondage:
Breast Whipping:
Brown Showers/Scat (feces play):
Caning:
Catheterization:
Chauffeuring:
Choking:
Chosen Clothing for:
Chosen Food For:
Clothespins:
Cock Worship:
Collars (wearing):
Corsets (wearing):
Cutting:
Daddy Play:
Dilation:
Double Penetration:
Electricity:
Enemas:
Examinations (physical):
Exhibitionism:
Face Slapping:
Fantasy Gang Rape:
Fantasy Rape:
Fisting:
Flogging (back):
Flogging (butt):
Following Orders:
Foot Worship:
Forced Dressing:
Forced Homosexuality:
Forced Masturbation:
Forced Nudity:
Forced Servitude:
Full Head Hoods:
Genital Sex:
Given Away:
Golden Showers (piss play):
Hair Pulling:
Hairbrushes:
Hand Jobs:
Handcuffs (metal):
Harnessing:
Head (getting):
Head (giving):
High Heel Worship:
Homage With Tongue:
Hot Waxing:
Housework:
Human Pony:
Human Puppy:
Humiliation In Private:
Humiliation In Public:
Ice Cubes:
Including Others:
Infantilism:
Injections:
Interrogations:
Intricate Rope Bondage:
Kidnapping:
Kneeling:
Leather Restraints:
Lecturing:
Licking:
Massage(getting):
Massage(giving):
Medical Scenes:
Mommy Play:
Mouth Bits:
Mummification(saran wrap etc):
Nipple torment:(clamps etc.)
Oral/Anal Play:
Orgasm Control:
Orgasm Denial:
Over-the-Knee Spanking:
Phone Sex:
Piercing (perm):
Piercing (temp):
Pussy Whipping:
Pussy Worship:
Religious Scenes:
Riding Crops:
Scratching:
Sensory Deprivation:
Serving as Ashtray:
Serving as Furniture:
Serving as Maid:
Serving as Pony:
Serving Orally:
Serving:
Sex in Scene:
Sexual Deprivation:
Shaving:
Single Tail (light/sensual):
Single Tail (moderate/heavy)
Spanking:
Speculums (vaginal):
Spreader Bars:
Stocks:
Straight Jacket:
Strap-on Dildos:
Supplying Victims:
Suspension (inverted):
Suspension:
Swapping:
Swinging:
Tape Gags:
Tattooing:
Teasing:
Tickling:
Triple Penetration:
Uniforms:
Verbal Humiliation:
Videoed Scenes:
Voyeurism:
Whipping (cat o’ nine tails etc.):
Wrestling:

Did we forget anything? Something you really LIKE? Something you really DON’T LIKE? Please add it to the bottom of the list!

Important Questions:

Physical Concerns - Do you have any medical conditions, chronic or otherwise, that the Top should know about? (Epilepsy, weak shoulders, skin Allergy to latex, etc.) Are you on any prescription medications? Etc.



Mental Concerns - Do you have any phobias or mental conditions that the Top should know about? (Fear of heights, Claustrophobia, MPD, etc.)



Limits - Are there any specific scene-related things you will not do?



Fetishes - Are there any specific scene-related things that you really like?



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This checklist is public domain and may be copied & used by anyone. Many thanks to all who have contributed, as this list is a “best of” of many different lists and our own ideas combined.

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