If I Ever See Another Checklist I Will Scream: An Extremely Thorough Play Checklist
Author: Norische
Filed in: negotiation, play, checklist
There are a two primary reasons for this checklist, 1) Safety. In all scenes safety should be paramount. This checklist is created to cover health issues, safety issues, as well as personal preferences and experiences. 2) Communication. Sometimes we don\'t quite know all the questions to ask or how to communicate to our partner what we want, this checklist will help you establish a greater level of communication and understanding.This list is designed primarily for the submissive, slave, bottom, or switch. However, it is a good idea for a Dom/Domme, Master/Mistress, top or switch to fill out the applicable information as well. If both parties fill out this checklist then the compatibility between partners can be examined.
1. Fill out any portion applicable of the Safety Section
2. Write YES or NO or N/A next to each item to indicate whether you have ever participated in this activity, or if it is Not Applicable to you.
3. Indicate your like or dislike about doing each item based on a scale of 0 to 5.
4. Write NO next to anything you would consider a HARD LIMIT, this means you would NOT consider doing this activity under any circumstances.
* 0 (zero) - indicates you are in NO way interested in doing that activity.
* 1(one) - indicates you do not want to or like to do this activity but might for the right person, under the right circumstances.
* 2(two) - indicates you are willing to do this activity, although it isn\'t one of your favorites.
* 3(three) - indicates you are willing to do this activity occasionally.
* 4(four) - indicates you are willing to do this activity on a regular basis.
* 5(five) - indicates you love doing this activity as often as possible.
* ? - indicates you are not familiar with the activity or do not understand the question
* / - indicates that you understand the activity but are unsure of how to answer
Part 1 - Safety
I am mainly into : (D/s, Sadism, Masochism, Bondage, Fetish, Power Exchange)
Safety Codes:
Red: Stop
Yellow: I\'m ok but slower/less/careful
Green: I\'m fine, go on, more
Safeword:
Visible bruises/cuts/marks must be avoided (Y/N):
Heath Issues: (Hemophilia, Allergies, Asthma, Breathing Problems, Blood Sugar Issues, Circulation)
Medications: Have you taken any medications, including Aspirin within the last 4 - 6 hours. Please include any Prescription medication you are on.
No hit zone if any:
Phobias or Fears:
Other Remarks:
I want aftercare (Y/N)
I like to talk after a scene (Y/N)
I want extensive verbal communication during a scene (Y/N)
I want music during the scene (Y/N)
Part 2 - Activities
Abrasion/Abrasive Play
Acrophilia (arousal from heights)
Acrotomphilia (arousal from stumps or amputees)
Adult Baby
Aftercare (at finish of play)
Age Role Play (Specify Age)
Agalmatophilia (arousal by sex with statues)
Amazon Women
Anal Beads
Anal Play (stimulation play of the anus)
Anal Plugs (large)
Anal Plugs (small)
Anal Plug (public, under clothes)
Anal Sex (giving, strap on)
Anal Sex (receiving)
Animal Role Play
Anilingus (giving oral/anal stimulation)
Anilingus (receiving oral/anal stimulation)
Ankle Restraints
Anthropomorphic (self contrived or false amputation)
Arm or Leg Sleeves (armbinders)
Aromas
Asphyxiation
Attraction for Uncircumcised Penis
Auctioned as Slave
Auctioned (for specified use by purchaser)
Auto-Erotic Asphyxiation (to heighten sexual pleasure)
Ball Gag
Ball/Testicle Stretching
Bareback (sexual intercourse without using a condom)
Barosmia (arousal from the smell of flagellation)
Bastinado (beating the soles of feet)
Bathroom Use Control
Battery Play (9 Volt)
BBW (Big Beautiful Women)
Begging
Being Boxed (coffin, crate, cage, etc)
Being Serviced (sexually)
Belly Dancing
Belly Punching
Ben Wa Balls
Bestiality (specify animal)
Bicourious
Bisexuality
Biting
Blackmail/Finacial Subjection
Blindfolds (being blindfolded)
Blood Play
Blow Up Sex Dolls
Blue Balls (ball torture)
Body Bag
Body Piercing (temp)
Body Piercing (permanent)
Bondage (ropes)
Bondage (cuffs)
Bondage (duct tapes)
Bondage (heavy)
Bondage (Japanese)
Bondage (light)
Bondage (long, extended time)
Bondage (outdoor setting)
Bondage (private setting)
Bondage (public setting, under clothes)
Bondage (steel, wire, metal)
Boot Worship
Branding or Cauterization Branding
Breast/Chest Bondage
Breast Flagellation
Breast/Chest Fucking
Beast Torture
Breath Control/Play
Brown Showers
Bruises
Butch/Femme Roleplay
Butt Plugs
Cages
Canes (hard)
Canes (light)
Canes (caning as punishment)
Canes (sensual)
Canes (Tattoo)
Castration Fantasy
Catheters
Cat - O - Nine Tails (flogger)
Cat - O - Nine Tails (knotted)
Cattle Prod
CBT (Cock, Ball Torture)
Cells/Closets/Confined Spaces (locked in)
Chains (hung from, wrapped in, confined)
Chamber Pot Use
Chair Bondage
Chastity Belt (short term)
Chastity Belt (Multi day)
Chauffeuring
Choking
Chores (domestic service)
Circumcised Penis
Clitoris Bondage
Clitoris Piercing (permanent)
Clitoris Piercing (temp)
Clitoris Vacuum Pumping
Clothespins
Cock Worship
Collar and Leash
Collars (worn in Private)
Collars (worn in Public)
Competitions (with other subs/slaves/bottoms)
Consensual Non-Consensuality
Corsets (casual wearing)
Corsets (trained waist reduction)
Corsets (for purpose of body modification)
Crawling
Cross-Dressing/Gender bending
Crucifixion
Cuffs (metal)
Cuffs (leather)
Cunnilingus (giving)
Cunnilingus (receiving)
Cunnilingus (while menstruating)
Cunnilingus (while urinating)
Cupping
Cutting
Dacryphlia (arousal from tears)
Damsel in Distress Fetish
Deep Throating
Denied Orgasm
Dental Gags - Retractors
Dental Play
Dilation (sphincter relaxation)
Dildo (using on self)
Dildo (using on partner)
Directed Bisexuality
Directed Daily Activities
Dirty Talk
Dirty Sex (mud, dirt, oil, rubbish)
Discipline
Double Penetration (dildos)
Double Penetration (multiple partners)
Douching
D/s, Domination, and submission
Edge Play (extending the boundaries of play)
Electric Torture
Electric Play
Enema (giving)
Enema (receiving)
Enema (for cleaning)
Enema (for punishment)
Enforced Chastity
Erotic Dance (doing)
Erotic Dance (watching)
Erotic Humiliation
Examinations (medical)
Examinations (physical)
Examinations (publicly as slave)
Exercise (forced)
Exhibitionism (friends)
Exhibitionism (strangers)
Eye Contact Requirements
Eye Contact Restrictions
Face Slapping
Fantasy Abandonment
Fantasy Abduction
Fantasy Gang Rape
Fantasy Rape
Fantasy of Rendered or Unconscious Men/Women
Fear (being scared)
Feathers and Fur play
Feces play (human on body)
Feces play (animal on body)
Feces play (human on face)
Feces play (animal on face)
Feces play (eating)
Fellatio (giving)
Fellatio (receiving)
Fellatio (mutual)
Fellatio (while urinating)
Fellatio (condom covered)
Female Body Builders
Female Ejaculation
Female to Female (strap on penetration anal)
Female to Female (strap on penetration virginal)
Female to Male (strap on penetration anal)
Femoral Intercourse (fucking closed thighs)
Fighting/Catfight
Finger Sucking
Fire Play
Fisting (anal, giving)
Fisting (anal, receiving)
Fisting (virginal, giving)
Fisting (virginal, receiving)
Fisting (double)
Flame play
Flogging (giving)
Flogging (receiving)
Following Orders
Food Play
Foot Binding
Foot Bondage
Foot Fetish
Foot Licking
Foot Massage
Foot Worship
Forced Bedwetting
Forced Cross Dressing
Forced Dressing
Forced Eating
Forced Domestic Service
Forced Feminization
Forced Homosexuality
Forced Heterosexuality
Forced Masturbation
Forced Panty/Pants Wetting
Forced Nudity (private)
Forced Nudity (public)
Forced Nudity (with group)
Forced Oral Sex
Forced Servitude
Forced Smoking
Frottage (arousal from the rubbing of clothed bodies)
Full Head Hoods
Gags (cloth)
Gags (dental)
Gags (inflatable)
Gags (phallic)
Gags (scarf)
Gags (tape)
Gas Mask
Genital Clamps
Genital Sex
Genitorture (light)
Genitorture (heavy)
Giantess
Given Away to Another Dominant (temp)
Given Away to Another Dominant (permanent)
Glory Hole
Golden Showers (on body)
Golden Showers (on face, hair, in mouth)
G-spot
Gun Play
Hair Bondage
Hair Cutting (head)
Hair Cutting (body)
Hair Holding
Hair Pulling
Hairbrushes (spanked with)
Hand Cuffs
Hand Jobs (giving)
Hand Jobs (receiving)
Hand Licking
Harems (belonging to)
Harems (serving with others)
Harnessing (leather)
Harnessing (rope)
Have clothing chosen for you
Having food chosen for you
Head (giving)
Head (receiving)
Headbinding
Head Restraint
Head Shaving
Heat Play (wax, ointment, cigarette)
High Heel Worship
Homage with tongue (non-sexual)
Hoods
Hot Creams
Hot Oils
Hot Waxing
Housework (doing)
Housework (doing nude, scantly clothed)
Human Furniture (foot stool, chair, table)
Human Pet (Cat, Dog, Horse)
Human Toilet
Humiliation (private)
Humiliation (public)
Hypnotism
Hypnotic Female Domination
Hypnotized Men
Ice Cubes
Ice Enemas
Immobilization
Including Others
Infantilism
Infibulation
Inflatable Toys
Initiantions / Gauntlets
Injections
Insertable Inflatable Toys
Interrogations
Intricate (Japanese) Rope Bondage
Jacking Off
Kali\'s Teeth Bracelet
Kegal Exercises
Keloids (cutting and raising scars)
Kidnapping
Kissing
Kneeling
Kneeling (long)
Knife Play
Kundalini (Chi)
Labia Enlargement
Labia Saline Injections
Labia Stretching
Labia Clips
Labia Weights
Latex Clothing
Lactation play
Lactating Women
Large Insertable Toys
Lead on Leash
Leather Clothing
Leatherman/woman
Leather Restraints
Lectures for Misbehavior
Leg Sleeve/Binder
Licking (floor)
Licking (people)
Licking (toilet bowl)
Lifting and Carrying cradle style in arms
Lingerie (on your partner)
Lingerie (wearing)
Liquid Rubber
Litter Box Using
Manacles, Shackles, leg irons
Manicures (giving)
Manicures (receiving)
Masturbation
Masturbation (in front of partner)
Masturbation (in front of others)
Masturbation (with same sex group)
Medical Play
Men in Underwear
Menstruation Fetish
Mind Control
Mind Fucking
Modeling for Erotic Photos
M/s Master/Mistress/slave
Multiple Orgasms
Mummification
Name Change (for scene)
Name Change (legal, permanent)
Name Change (online)
Necrophilia (arousal by someone in corpse like state, or corpse)
Needle Play
Nipple Clamps
Nipple Play
Nipple Rings (piercing)
Nipple Sucking
Nipple Torture
Nipple Weights
Non Penetrative Sex
Nymphomania (abnormal sexual appetite)
O Kee Pa (the Sun Dance)
Objectification (being Property)
Orgasm Control
Orgasm Denial
Orgasm on Command
Outdoor Sceneing
Outdoor Sex
Over the Knee Spanking
Paddles (leather)
Paddles (studded)
Paddles (wooden)
Pain (mild)
Pain (medium)
Pain (severe)
Pain Slut
Panty Wetting
Pelvic Floor Muscle Control
Permanent Record of Sessions (video, photographs)
Persona Training (in scene)
Personality Modification
Phone Sex (commercial provider)
Phone Sex (serving Dom)
Phone Sex (serving Dom\'s friends)
Piercing (permanent)
Piercing (temp)
Pinching
Piqurer (stabbing someone with small objects in crowds)
Plaster Casts
Plastic Surgery
Plastic Wrap
Plushie Fetish
Pony Girl/Boy
Postillionage (inserting lubricated finger into anus)
Practice Save Sex
Prostitution (fantasy)
Prostitution (forced)
Prostitution (real)
Prison Scenes
Public Exposure
Public Sex
Pumping
Punch Fucking (extreme fisting)
Punishment (discipline)
Punishment Scene
Pussy Whipping
Pussy Worship
Pygmalionism (sex with mannequins, statues, or blow-up dolls)
Queening (forcing vagina into mouth and nose)
Rape and Abduction Fantasy
Religious Scenes
Restrictive rules on Behavior
Riding Crops
Riding the Wooden Horse (crotch torture)
Rimming (anus licking)
Rituals/ Ceremonies (non-religious)
Rubber, Gummi, Latex, Spandex, Wetsuits, Fetish
Sacred Sex/Sacred Sexuality
Sadomasochism
Safe Call
Saline Injection/Infusion (breasts, labia, testicles-specify)
Saran Wrapping (mummification)
Scarification
Scarves and Mask Fetish
Scratching (giving)
Scratching (receiving)
Secret Sex in Public
Sensory Deprivation
Serving as Maid/Butler
Serving as an Art Object
Serving as an Ashtray
Serving as toilet (feces)
Serving as toilet (urine)
Serving as Waitress/Waiter
Serving Other Dom (supervised)
Serving Other Dom (unsupervised)
Serving Orally (sexual)
Sexual Addiction
Sexual Deprivation
Sexual intercourse with older person (Gerontophilia)
Sexual Sadism
Sharps Play
Shaved Genitals (having)
Shaved Genitals (on partner)
Shaving (below neck)
Shaving (head)
Single-Tail Whip
Skinny Dipping
Slavery
Slave Marking (receiving)
Sleep Deprivation
Sleeping Bondage (heavy)
Sleeping Bondage (light)
Sleeping on Floor
Sleepsacks
Slings/Swings
Slutty Clothing (private)
Slutty Clothing (public)
Smoking females or Smoking Fetish
Sneezing Fetish
Spandex Clothing
Spanking (giving)
Spanking (receiving)
Spanking (belt, leather strap)
Spanking (hand)
Spanking with implement
Speaking Restrictions
Speculums (anal)
Speculums (vaginal)
Spitting (on body)
Spitting (in mouth)
Spreader Bars
Standing In Corner
Stocks/Pillory
Straight Jackets
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated anally)
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated vaginally)
Strap-on-dildos (sucking)
Strap-on-dildos (wearing)
Strapping (full body beating)
SubMission (private)
SubMission (public)
Supplying new partners for Dom
Suspension (horizontal)
Suspension (inverted)
Suspension partially touching floor (on toes)
Suspension (upright)
Suspension by hook
Swallowing Feces
Swallowing Semen
Swallowing Urine
Swapping (w/ multiple couples)
Swapping (w/ one couple)
Swinging
Switching
Tampon Training (inserted in anus)
Tantra - Tantric and Taoist Sex
Tattoos (henna/temp)
Tattoos (permenant)
Teasing
Temperature Play
TENS unit (electrical toy)
The Humbler
The Zipper
Threesome (group sex, Menage a Trois)
Thumb Bondage
Thumb Cuffs
Tickling
Toe Sucking
Top/bottom
Topping from the bottom
Total Power Exchange
Triple Penetration (dildo)
Triple Penetration (multiple partners)
24/7
Urethral Sounds (metal rods)
Uniforms
Upskirt, Stockings, Nylons, Pantyhose Fetish
Urethral Play
Use of non-verbal Safe words
Use of Safe Words
Vacuum Body Bag/Vacuum Bondage Bed
Vaginal intercourse
Verbal Abuse
Verbal Humiliation
Vibrator (external)
Vibrator (internal)
Video Porn/BDSM watching
Video (recordings of you)
Video Taped Scenes
Violet Wand
Voyeurism (watching partner with others)
Water Sports
Water Torture
Wax Hair Removal
Wax Play
Wear Rubber/Latex Clothing
Wearing Boots
Wearing High Heels
Wearing Uniforms (Military, Fireman, Police, Sport, Nazi, etc.)
Wearing Symbolic Jewelry
Weight Gain (enforced)
Weight Loss (enforced)
Whipping
Wooden Paddles
Wrestling (other subs)
Wrestling (your partner)
Wrestling Females
Wrestling Males
Zooerasty (sexual intercourse with animals)
Zoophilia (Sexual enjoyment stroking/fondling of animals)
Related Essays
- BDSM Play Partner Checklist by Sovereign House
- Before Scene: Interview by Norische
- Can I Get That In Writing: Basics Of Negotiations by Norische
- What are negotiations good for? by Bluedeacon
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