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Speech Training 1: Introduction

Author: Norische

Filed in: training, speech

Knowing how to properly introduce oneself is extremely important. An improper introduction can taint the entire conversation and perhaps slew the initial impression in a detrimental manner. As the old adage states "You only get one chance to make a good first impression."

When initiating a conversation with another individual one must first know how the individual wishes to be addressed. Countless individuals have been cast aside as inexperienced or untrained simply because the
first words out of their mouth was "Hello, Mistress" or "Greetings Master". Titles are earned; not simply matters of common courtesy. When a slave takes it upon him or herself to use a familiar presence then he or she has already overstepped their boundaries. Hence with the first words out of the slave's mouth he or she has already proven themselves to be ignorant or careless.

When a slave first meets an individual, no matter of apparent rank or standing the slave should always request how the individual wishes to be addressed. Specifically, a slave must learn to ask, with respect mind you, what title or name that he or she should use. For example:

"Forgive my ignorance, but I am unaware of how to address you."
"Please forgive me, but I do not know how you wish to be addressed."

These are two excellent examples of the proper way to initialize a conversation. After the slave is familiar with how to address an individual he or she should thank the individual for the information and the slave may then introduce him or herself.

The proper way for a slave to introduce him or herself is to be polite, respectful and to the point. For example:

" If it pleases Sir, I am called chimmey."
"It is an honor to meet you Ma'am, I am called chimmey, property of Madam Lang."

A wise choice of words can be a prelude to a promising experience, just as an ill chosen word or phrase can be disastrous.

"Forgive my ignorance, I am unaware of how to address you."
" Thank you Sir."
"It is an honor to make your acquaintance. If I may be so bold, I am chimmey, property of Madam Lang."

There are several simple hints that can help avoid a disastrous first time meeting. While an Owner can be much more specific as to the method of greeting and public as well as private behavior that the submissive displays, this selection gives a good basis for reference and a good starting place for the inexperienced.

A slave should never extend a hand for a handshake or touch another individual without permission.

A slave should never raise his or her voice.

A slave should never mumble or talk under their breath.

A slave should never interrupt (unless it is an emergency or he or she is ordered to do so).

A slave should never make a spectacle of themselves, or attempt to draw attention to themselves.

A slave should not fidget or squirm.

A slave should remain focused and attentive at all times.

A slave should never invade another individual's personal space, unless directed to do so.

A slave should not slouch or appear too stiff.

A slave should assume that the individual that he or she is a superior until told otherwise.

A slave should never use profanity,

Keep in mind that manners may or may not be mentioned but they are always expected.

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