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7 Subs Online by Unknown
Filed in: submission, humor, online

1. POOR-ME SUB: This "sub" always has something going wrong in her life. Of course, it is never her fault... she is always being played upon and victimized by others. If only she found the *[...]

Southern Baptist Submission by Author Unknown
Filed in: humor, religion

GADFLY'S ONLINE CHRISTIAN BONDAGE AND DOMINATION STOREIn support of the recent Southern Baptist edict that women should "submit to their husbands," we have acquired an inventory of beginning[...]

It's All In Black and White: Contracts I by Norische
Filed in: contracts

What is a BDSM contract? The definition of a BDSM contract is fundamentally a consensual agreement between two or more individuals within a BDSM relationship. A contract defines the roles, rights, an[...]

Age Play: The Truths and The Myths by Melissa
Filed in: age play

IntroductionHi my name is Melissa but I am better known as missy. My talk today is titled Ageplay: The Truths and The Myths. In choosing that title, I know I am kind of misleading you, since basically[...]

10 Reasons We Need a Submissive as President by Author Unknown
Filed in: submission, humor

10. A submissive is ready to serve 24/79. She is very protective8. She knows how to negotiate7. She is not afraid of being told when she had done something wrong, most of the time she will tell on her[...]

Submission: From a Dominant's Point of View: What is a Submissive? by Norische
Filed in: submission

The basics of submission is a subject that has been explored for quite some time, and no matter how much contemplation one does, there is simply no way to define the exact nature of submission or the [...]

Fireplay by Lady Gwyneth Rose
Filed in: how-to, fire play, beginners

I have done fireplay on many occasions...please NOTE here... fireplay is one of the edgier types of play and should NOT be attempted without being shown how to do so properly FIRST and just reading an[...]

Getting Freaky With It: Fetishes, Paraphilias, and Just Plain Freaky by Norische
Filed in: fetish

Fetish The first thing that must be discussed is what exactly is a fetish. In psychiatry a fetish is an object, action or bodily part whose real or fantasized presence is psychologically necessary fo[...]

Phenomenal Woman by Maya Angelou
Filed in: inspirational, poetry

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies. I'm not cute or built to suit a fashion model's size But when I start to tell them, They think I'm telling lies. I say, It's in the reach of my arms The span [...]

Frugal Romance 101 by Unknown
Filed in: relationships, love, romance, tips, suggestions, frugal romance

Holidays and special anniversaries are wonderful reminders for romance. However, they are also the most predictable. A small but meaningful gesture on an "ordinary day" often has more impact[...]

Online BDSM Dictionary by Author Unknown
Filed in: online, definitions

:::Thwack:::The noise made by the keys as they are tapped to spell out 'whip'. :::Kneeling quietly:::What subs post to remind their Masters or Mistresses that they are still online. :::12" shaft [...]

The Good Wife Guide by Unknown
Filed in: good wife, guide, 50's household

Be a good wife. Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready for his return from work. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him a[...]

More Various Christmas Carols by Unknown
Filed in: humor

"Tune of White Chirstmas" o/~ Sub's nuts roasting o'er an open fire Domme Frost nipping at their toes, Yuletide screams being sung by subchoir subbie girls in schoolgirl clothes... ..o/~ &q[...]

Looking Out for Number One by Kayla
Filed in: responsibility

I've been around the BDSM community for a number of years and have had my fair share of meeting new people for potential play/relationship consideration. Over time I’ve put together my own perso[...]

Feminisim & Submission by Toya
Filed in: relationships, submission, feminism, feminist movement, independent woman

Writing an article on submission and feminism was a huge challenge to me. Until a few years ago I had never really come into contact with the feminist movement; for the most part the feminist movement[...]

Just Getting Started : Tips for Dungeon Monitors by Jay Wiseman
Filed in: dungeon monitors, play parties, tips

For many years now, play parties have had special people fill the role of "dungeon monitors" -- or DMs for short These people are mainly there to ensure that the party rules are complied[...]

A submissive woman is actually a treasured jewel by Freya
Filed in: submission, love, experience

Although I do work outside of the home I still believe in the logic above. I work because Master insists I do. Not for the money, although it does help as raising children is not cheap, but for what h[...]

Top 20 Politically Correct Way To Call Someone A Pervert by Unknown
Filed in: humor

20. Morally Challenged 19. Sadomasochistically-engineered 18. Sensationally-accomplished 17. Kinkifically-resolved 16. Exhibitionismically-oriented 15. Missionary-incompatible 14. Dominantly-end[...]

D/s Medical Advice: Prevention and Treatment of Injuries / Adverse Conditions by A D/s Physician
Filed in: health and safety

Table of Contents:Introduction Sexually Transmitted DiseaseRisk Factors Partial List of Diseases PreventionInjuries: Prevention and TreatmentThe Importance of the Right Partner Safety Tips Drugs and A[...]

The Role of the Free Woman in Gorean Society by unknown
Filed in: gorean information

INTRODUCTION     Gorean society is populated by many different types of people of different caste and social status, but of all the inhabitants of the counter-earth, few are as fas[...]

Predators by Silent Intruder
Filed in: health and safety, d/s

It never ceases to amaze Me that sane, intelligent M/men and W/women seem to become mere children at the hands of a smooth-talking Dom/me (or sub)....putty to be molded and shaped and crafted into so[...]

The Dominant's First Aid Kit by SAADE
Filed in: dominance, health and safety, play

This material is the exclusive property of SAADE and may be reproduced and shared if accompanied with this notice at the top of the document. Assemble one first aid kit for your home[...]

How to be a Really Obnoxious Dominant by Author Unknown
Filed in: humor

~ Insist that all Bondage play be done only with Silly string.~ For gagging, use Giant Supersourball Bubble gum, found in Grocery vending machines.~ When your sub starts turning blue from too-tight bo[...]

Speech Training 8: Asking A Question by Norische
Filed in: training, speech

A slave must never be afraid to ask a question; however, to ask a question in an inappropriate manner is not to be tolerated. The first thing that a slave must understand is that many Owners do not a[...]

Speech Training 3: Addressing Superiors by Norische
Filed in: training, speech

When addressing a superior remember never to assume anything. When first meeting an individual ask how he or she wishes to be addressed…for example" "Please forgive me, I do not know[...]

The Internet Letter to Dr. Laura Schlessinger by Author Unknown
Filed in: online

Dear Dr. Laura:Thank you for doing so much to educate people regarding G-d's Law. I have learned a great deal from your show, and I try to share that knowledge with as many people as I can. When someo[...]

An Interesting View of Sadomachism by Donald L Miesen
Filed in: humor, sm, sadomasochism

SM: The Erotic Game SM: The Erotic Minority SM: The Erotic Controversy SM is watching the neighborhood kids play cops and robbers, and the look on the face of the one that has maneuvered herself int[...]

Orientation 1: Service by Norische
Filed in: training

Service is one of the most primary, the most basic of terms within the BDSM realm. Service can loosely be defined as an act or work done by one individual to the benefit another, but what does service[...]

Speech Training 6: Affirmative Answers by Norische
Filed in: training, speech

When a slave gives an affirmative answer he or she can be as simple or as elaborate as the Owner wishes. Saying "yes" can be done is a vast array of different ways. For example if the Owner[...]

Orientation 4: Obedience by Norische
Filed in: training

Obedience is a gray area within an owner/slave relationship. To some owners obedience is blind; a slave has no place to question the command of the owner under any circumstances. To me obedience is un[...]

Presentation 5: Kneeling at the Ready by Norische
Filed in: training

This position is primarily used when a slave is kneeling waiting for instructions or waiting to serve. This position is good when you have placed the slave in a corner or when you want their full atte[...]

Standing On The Edge: Is It Edge Play or Not by Norische
Filed in: edge play, definitions, limits

The definition for edge play varies from individual to individual, each person has his or her interpretation of what edge play truly is. For some things this may be odd, but not for edge play, let me [...]

Speech Training 11: Introducing Another Individual by Norische
Filed in: training, speech

When introducing an individual the slave should take a few things into consideration prior to performing the introduction. The first thing to take into consideration is the preference of the Owner. I[...]

Hey I'm Putting You In Bondage, Tonight(carol) by Unknown
Filed in: humor

Oh, you better not pout, You better not cry, You better not shout, I'm telling you why, I'm putting you in bondage, tonight. I'm getting out ropes, Checking them twice Because you have been Naughty b[...]

Orientation 11: Discretion by Norische
Filed in: training

Being discrete is something that many of us take for granted; I however, feel that it is necessary to include this subject. Some individuals feel that if you behave in a discrete manner that you are [...]

Presentation 6: Chastisement by Norische
Filed in: training

This position is meant to be humbling by its very nature. This position works well when you are being force to chastise or correct the slave. For this position the slave should be kneeling. Legs: Th[...]

Presentation 1: Appearance by Norische
Filed in: training

The first point that should be made about a slave's appearance is that the slave is always a direct reflection of the Owner. While the Owner ordains the general appearance of the slave, the slave mus[...]

Presentation 8: Show Yourself by Norische
Filed in: training

This is a series of three separate positions joined together to create one fluid motion. This position is primarily used for the inspection and review of a slave. The movement from one position to the[...]

Speech Training 7: Negative Answers by Norische
Filed in: training, speech

When a slave gives a negative answer he or she can again be as simple or as elaborate as the Owner wishes. Saying "no" can be done is a vast array of different ways. Some Owners do not allo[...]

Emergency Training for SM Practioners by Jay Wiseman
Filed in: health and safety, training, sm

A young woman is being hoisted in suspension bondage when the winch handle slips from her Master's hand and she plummets back to the floor. A man strains at the cuffs holding his hands above his head [...]

Kegels by Mistress Steel
Filed in: sex

Many forms of BDSM scening involve or may involve activity to the pelvis, vagina and anus. Since a great number of women entering the lifestyle have had children it is not uncommon for many women to h[...]

Orientation 3: Attitude by Norische
Filed in: training

Attitude is another one of the corner stones that serve as a good foundation for any slave. Remember that the attitude of the slave can very well set the attitude of the house, and hence the atmospher[...]

You know you are kinky when ... by Unknown
Filed in: humor

... You hear about a Bridal Fashion Show to be held in your town, and you think, "Cool! I've always wanted to see what pony gear looks like ON someone!" ... Your entire Music collection con[...]

Presentation 2: Casual Appearance by Norische
Filed in: training

Casual appearance refers to the general attire that a slave is expected to present on a standard basis. Some Owners prefer the slave to be nude and hence casual would be irrelevant. However, some Owne[...]

Weights, Measures and Gorean Monetary System by unknown
Filed in: gorean information

  In any civilization, one of the most important aspects of societal interaction occurs in the area of commerce, or the business of conducting business. The exchange of trade goods is a vital par[...]

Orientation 2: Baggage by Norische
Filed in: training

When I speak of baggage I do not speak of your trusty old set of Samsonite, I am speaking of emotional baggage. Emotional baggage is a laymen's term for the emotional turmoil and distress that each i[...]

The Teacup by Author Unknown
Filed in: inspirational

A couple vacationing in Europe went strolling down a little street and saw a quaint little gift shop with a beautiful teacup in the window. The lady collected teacups and she wanted this one for her c[...]

Presentation 4: Standing at the Ready by Norische
Filed in: training

When training in any form, the first thing that the slave must understand is that each owner is unique. Hence, the requirements of the owner are unique as well. However there are several basic positio[...]

A Brief Introduction to the Planet Gor by _Marcus_ of Ar
Filed in: gorean information

     Gor is a world not unlike Earth, though slightly smaller in size. It possesses three moons, and due to its different mass and size the world of Gor has a lighter gravity field[...]

The Gorean Caste System by unknown
Filed in: gorean information

     Gorean society is divided into "Castes." Each profession or occupation comprises its own caste, and each caste is ranked according to its particular place in Gorean [...]

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